The Closet Privilege

Content warning: Transphobia, dysphoria and violence talk.
Privilege, is first developed as a concept to explain the situation of white people in a white supremacist society. With slavery first, then prison and cheap immigrant labor, white people built wealth while POC,  and especially black people have been pushed into majorly lower life standards and intergenerational trauma. By police, prisons and education system, by gerrymandering and voter suppression, Black people are being oppressed directly by Western states, especially USA.  Black creativity and identity are also being stolen from them daily, while they are being punished for trying to be connected to their heritage, rejecting being slaves or secondary to white people, or often just simply being Black. Thus, white privilege is everything white people has been and is stealing from black people. This does not mean white people can't be poor or get into trouble with police, or there are no rich Black people. Obviously capitalism screws white people too and they can have identities that makes them marginalized. However not only on-one-one comparison with similar wealth and social status, being Black still adds problems and worsens the existing ones, white people implicitly or explicitly benefit from Black suffering. How much a White person personally benefits by privlege is irrelevant, because privilege is generational and concerns entire White society , but more importantly, race is completely impersonal. While humanity had always no doubt some prejudices over being different, the races of today are literally invented to justify colonialism and slave trade. Race is something that is imposed upon you, one cannot stop being White or Black; (even if one could change skin color or appearances related to being African, racism can find a way). The existence of the category is what creates the privledge and racial oppression to begin with, without destruction of white supremacy, white privledge will always exist and one cannot give it up or gain when lack them personally.
Later, the concept of privilege was applied to explain other power imbalances. Cis privlege, male privlege, abled privlege and so on. In the light of my very basic summary of white privlege, I will try to explain why some of these applications of privlege is not very successful, and even can do more harm than good; at the very least it should be understood that "privlege" actually refers to wildly different concepts when used in such matter and it is not useful as a catch-all term for all sorts of hierarchical social standing.
It is obvious that most societies in the world are patriarchal, and men undeniably hold a higher place in these societies. I assume no one that is interested in reading this will disagree. What is usually refered to as "male privilege" is concrete and observable. However, white privlege and male privlege operates so differently it is using the same word may obfuscate this.

• Why does male privilege exists? Is it simply because some individuals are called "men" and others "women"? No, there were non patriarchal societies that had such categories. Whether there were any kind of coercive gender roles in these societies, it is clear that some kind of gender grouping does not itself crate patriarchy.  But racial grouping is what creates racism, if there is any social and moral value attachment to skin color or haplogroups, that society is racist.
• Patriarchy starts from the smallest collective unit, the family, and operates on a personal level. With appearance, behavior, occupations, relationships; at every moment individuals are coerced to into certain roles. This happens with racism to some extent as well but racism has a much more macro-scale applications. White supremacy created police to crush the unruly slaves, patriarchy makes all of us each other's police. This is what makes "white privilege" much more useful as a concept: No matter how much racism is reduced in interpersonal relationships, language and everyday life while generation-wide wealth accumulation and colonization remains, a racist society won't wither away and any gains made in social life will be under constant pressure.
• Because coercion happens to everyone, patriarchy harms men when its ideals turn over them. "Strength" is grueling labor. "Bravery" is dying in pointless wars, "Toughness" is being emotionally weak. "Leadership" is obsession with dominance and control. And of course, failure or refusal to conform will not only strip away benefits of being a man, such individuals will be thrown into lower caste. There is no such pressure to white people in a racist society. No matter how deeply they are committed to dismantle racism, a white person will retain their privilege until all white supremacist institutions are undone.
• Gender itself, is deeply personal. It's a constant struggle between self-actualization and coercion. Trans identity is fundamentally at odds with patriarchy as it is the ultimate rejection, thus all trans people are harmed by patriarchy; trans men, trans women, non binary people. Race is not a part of identity like gender, it only manifests itself in privilege and oppression. While the exact target of "whiteness" has been not exactly static, it is not something you can give up. Thus, white privlege is static in this manner as well. ("%3 Indigenous gene" or "I decided my race is Black" is worthless)

Overall, gender is fluid and individualistic. Applying the concept  of privilege to gender hierarchy makes it volatile and atomic, and thus easily derailed by liberalism into simply "things you are favored for in society."  and can easily pave into oppression olympics. However, forcing a static perception of privlege into gender is even worse, such as "Trans women have male privlege".
"Male" is a word that is inseparable from "man", often people make this statement very deliberately to reinforce gender essentialism: "Trans women are males, thus actually man". Similarly, trans men "women who just desire privilege".
No
That's all we need to say about this nonsense. But it doesn't answer everything. Some people want to genuinely discuss trans people's relationship with their assigned gender, especially when they didn't discover themselves or are in closet. (With "some people" I mean trans people, cis people please refrain from having enlightened opinions about this.)
Cishet men are first class citizens of the patriarchal society, as they are closest to ideal man. It follows that merely being perceived as one have some benefits. Trans women don't deny this, there wouldn't much benefit into being closet otherwise. However, this is not "male privilege" or "cishet male privlege" Not only the concept of privlege itself does not map to gender well, it downplays the violence trans women undergo before transitioning. This makes it sound like being in closet or being perpetually confused is privileged.
It is not.
It is not privileged to have a giant void in your identity. It is not privleged to be unable to fulfill your identity. It is not privleged to hate your body and not knowing why.  It is not privleged to hate your body and being able to doing nothing about it while knowing why. It is not privleged to have your identity repressed. It is not privleged to know you are repressed and not having power to stop it. It is not privleged to not even being able to wear some clothes because you are worried about your safety. It is not privleged to choose between having money or living true to yourself. It is not privleged to trade your identity with having a social circle every day. It is not privleged to have a sinking, crushing feeling when it gets to you that people see you as a man.
Sure, there are benefits to look like a man, I don't ignore this but um... let me share a little secret:
It still sucks.
Trans women should not have to choose between being able to taken seriously, earning better wages , feeling safe from harassment and being able to live as they want. If someone does not recognise this cruelty as a part the patriarchal society and tries to over-analyze trans women's experiences instead, they are arguing in bad faith.
And, it erases trans men from conversation. They are not elevated the caste of cis men once they come out. There is no privilege gained in this. Trans men don't escape the violence of cis men. The full liberation of trans men cannot be achieved without the elimination of male violence in the first place. A society will fully accept trans men's declaration of identity only once manhood stops something that needs to be constantly proven. Thus being assumed a cishet men by itself is not able to circumvent oppression of patriarchy.
Of course, non-binary people are not at all discussed in these claims. Non-binary is a just third category to men and women, it is defined by opposition to gender binary, non-binary genders are the most personal of all, and it is even less possible to make generalized arguments for privileges.
The close this off, I think privilege is not a strong academic term for explaining relations for all different kind of oppression, especially on personal and non-static identities. More importantly, the overuse of the word privlege shows us the peril of making grand analyses without knowing the experiences of the groups analyzed. In other words, stop playing devil's advocate about us and start actually think like an angel.

Note: I can't believe I have written privilege wrong in the entire article...
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